Hi Joey,

I am a huge fan of yours and I am so intrigued by this study of Bazi. I also love the recorded MelodyFM programs! Unfortunately due to timing and location I haven't had the opportunity to attend any of your personal talks. I know one day I will have the chance. I hope my question gets picked and thank you so much in advance.

I think my life has been quite blessed so far however in the recent years, I find myself at a huge crossroad. There are big decisions I need to make about my life soon, and I cannot stop myself from making a feminist decision.

The personal aspect in my life is forcing me to make a choice between life partner and country, career and financial status. As you can probably read from my chart, I am too selfish to give up all that I have for something that has no guarantee. My personal relationship with my partner has also been unconventional and somewhat extraordinary - my life events seem to unfold in a similar way to his but 2 years later! How do you explain that? At the same time I feel like I am causing distress/misfortune in my partner's life.

1. Does my chart show that I am an unfavourable spouse to my partner? (I am still unable to identify presence of spouse stars in my chart).

2. My biggest question is.. should I take a "leap of faith" and quit my career, move countries (back to Malaysia), get married, and concentrate on supporting my partner in the coming year of Water Snake? My 5 structure shows that I am a terrible supporter. I also have a big financial commitment that will need support from others should I lose my income and I do not wish to rely on my future husband to fill that gap. I am also worried I will be laden with financial difficulties late in life.

3. My DM indicates I am unable to focus / finish what I started doing and I have felt that too. How do you recommend I overcome this weakness? I have great intentions to learn Bazi in depth via your books and online lessons however due to the depth and complexity I fear I will give up before I even start.

4. I will consider this a bonus question: do you think I have a good chart?

Thank you so much Joey. I really appreciate it.

BaZi Chart 八字 Hour 時 Day 日 Month 月 Year 年 天 干 Heavenly Stems Bing Yang Fire Gui Yin Water Ding Yin Fire Jia Yang Wood Chen (Dragon) Yang Earth Hai (Pig) Yin Water Mao (Rabbit) Yin Wood Zi (Rat) Yang Water 地 支 Earthly Branches Gui Wu Yi F DO EG Ren Jia RW HO Yi EG Gui F 藏 干 Hidden Stems

Dear Crystal,