I have some burning questions which I really hope you could help to answer. Last year, I almost got married. My ex-bf asked for my bazi so that his parents could consult a bazi shifu to select a date for our marriage. To my horror, after the consultation, the wedding was called off and he broke up with me. He gave many excuses for the breakup but I knew the real reason must have something to do with the bazi consultation. 

 Since then, I have read many books on bazi, hoping to understand what's so terrible about my bazi that he needed to break up with me. I have bought and read all your bazi books but I still couldn't find the answers. Below are my questions which I hope you could help to answer: 

 1. In my day pillar, I am Yi Wood sitting on Fire Snake. Snake contains Hurting Officer, Direct Wealth & Direct Officer. Is this still a case of Hurting Officer meet Direct Officer meaning I will control ('ke') my husband and my husband will be weak? Will the Direct Wealth in the Fire Snake solve the problem? 

 2. Will I ever get married? If yes, when would be a likely year for me to meet my Mr Right and get married? Someone who read my bazi told me I may meet the one after 45 years old. Is it true and will the marriage be good? 

 3. I also have a Fire Snake in the hour pillar. Does it mean that I will get married twice since together with the day pillar, there's 2 Direct Officer? 

 4. In my bazi, which god do I 'use'? Is it 

1. Bing Fire, followed by 2. Gui Water, followed by 3. Xin Metal?

 Really hope you can help to answer the questions. This unfortunate incident has disturbed me for almost a year. :( Thank you very much. 

 Sincerely, Jean

Sorry to hear about your incident. I think it would be unfair of him to call off the wedding simply based on a BaZi Reading. Unless of course, he has already made up his mind and just wanted confirmation of sorts. 

A proper BaZi reading should also provide solutions to solve the problem. If he went for a proper reading, he would have been informed about what needs to be done, in order to ensure that the marriage would be successful. 

My answer to your questions: 

1. You are asking in the wrong context. A star 'doesn't solve another star. What you should be asking is - what does this manifest as in your real life. What sort of characteristics you should be working on to improve to ensure the  problem can be resolved. Instead of asking for whether a star can resolve another star. In which they don't as this is not how they work. 

2. Yes. 

3. It is not how many times you get married. It is whether you can be happy. Who says an unmarried person is lonely and a married person is always happy? You got the whole concept wrong. Your chart clearly indicates this problem. You do not see the big picture. The clash between the pig and snake causes confusion. You need to know that your happiness is not found when you found someone. You must first be happy in order for someone to come into your life. 

4. Bing. 

It is not an unfortunate incident that happened. It is happened because you have better option in future. So don't complain. 

Warm Regards,

JY