Dear Jennifer,
Yes there are people born with those natural skills. But if you don't, then all you need to do is find your "own" sent of relational skills. Everyone is different. Everyone has their own unique style. Find yours. Find out your BaZi Profile and follow your own path. it may take some time to master those skills, but it is not impossible.
Warm Regards,
JY
ps: you may call my office (speak to Olivia) and ask when is the next BaZi 3hour workshop. Come for one of those after you've read about your profile.